Abandon the Chicken and Play in the Snow!

In our recent snow, I abandoned dinner responsibility (ok, I threw some chicken in the oven but didn’t create the all-out-delicious meal I had planned) and PLAYED IN THE SNOW.

We built seven snowmen, one for each member of our family

This occurred while the babies napped – it would have been difficult otherwise.

I just want to encourage all moms to take time to play with your kids.

They’re not going to remember if you had white wine sauce with five different herbs on their chicken vs. just butter and salt in five years, but they are going to remember the late afternoon when mommy put on her snow pants and they built seven snowmen together.

I think I had just as much fun as they did!

MY thought is this: No amount of microdermabrasion is going to keep your heart feeling young.

Abandoning the Chicken to Play in the Snow

(Tabitha (left) age five, Thomas (at top) age 6, Aiden (right) age 4 and ME (center) – having a blast and eternally thankful for the gift of children after being told I’d never have any. Looking forward to when Micah and Leah can appreciate the snow!)

How to Respectfully Ask Someone to Stop Calling So Often

Talking to Grandma (via Flickr)

Dear Sarah,

I have a problem that could use guidance and counsel on. My mother-in-law likes to call on a frequent basis. Actually she calls me everyday and no fewer than 3 times a day. On Monday of this week, she called a total of 5 times (and those are just the times that I answered the phone). On a side note, I live on the east coast and my mom on the west coast and I don’t even talk to her everyday. We talk once every week to week and a half or longer if one of us has something going on. I am a stay at home mommy with a a 3,2 and 4 month old so you can imagine how hectic and busy my day is. I know that she’s not lonely because she is married and my husband’s 18 year old brother and 12 year old sister are still living at home. I’ve tried dropping hints about how busy my day is but still nothing; I’ve gotten to the point of screening my calls using my answering machine (she called a total of 15 times yesterday – No I didn’t pick up any of the calls) but I’m starting to feel like a prisoner in my own phone. My husband is no help, he thinks its funny and encourages me to just let the phone ring and not pick it up. I know that I have to say something because I just don’t have the strength or energy to maintain this type of relationship and she is also starting to make comments on the fact that she has been trying all day to get in contact with me. Sorry for being long winded but I wanted to give all of the facts. Any advice you all can give will be welcomed. Thanks

Big hugs to you! I’m a mommy of 5 little ones (close in age like yours!) and I know exactly what you’re talking about.

Conversations with children throughout the day need to be more than, “QUIET! I’m on the phone!”

This is a difficult situation because you love your MIL very much and don’t want to hurt her feelings!

You must talk to her about this lest it become a point of bitterness.

Here are some suggestions for talking points:

1. Assure her of your love. “Mom I love you so much! I appreciate that you talk to me. I know that there are many mothers and mothers in law who do not talk to their children. I am so thankful to have you in my life, and I am very thankful for our relationship.”

2. Address the problem with kindness and diplomacy. Recently, I have been convicted about trying to be more diligent about how I use my time during the day. I believe I have been spending too much time on the phone – and I’m not just talking about talking to you, but with others as well. I noticed that it’s taking a toll on my getting my housework done, and also with my parenting.

3. Ask for teamwork. “Mom, weaning myself from the phone is kinda like a diet or a lifestyle change for me – can you please be sensitive to this while I try to make the change to apply myself a little better to the tasks that God has given me throughout the day?”

4. Answer her when she needs you. “Please know that you still can call me any time! If I am available to talk, I will answer the phone! If I am in the middle of something, I am going to start letting my answering machine get it so I can get my work done . I will call you as soon as I am available to talk. If there is something that needs me immediate, please note that on the message or call my cell phone. ALSO, you are always welcome to send me as MANY emails you want!! That way, I can respond to them when I have some down time.”

5. Appreciate her understanding. “THANK YOU, mom, for being understanding and an ENCOURAGEMENT to me as I really do need to improve in this area!!!”

BTW, here is the message I have on my machine, which is a kind way to let people know that I’m screening my calls –
http://www.sarahjoyalbrecht.net/2007/08/24/a-ringing-phone-has-to-be-answered/

Much love,
Sarah Joy Albrecht

Leah’s Big Hug

“I love hugging. I wish I was an octopus, so I could hug ten people at a time.” ~Drew Barrymore

“You can’t give a hug without getting a hug.” ~Author Unknown

“It doesn’t matter who, when, or where… you can always use a hug.”
from the movie, “Hope Floats”

“You can call me cute if it’ll make you hug me tighter!” – Author Unknown

“I have a present for you, but I need to borrow your arms for wrapping paper.”– Author Unknown

“Hug them, kiss them and tell them that you love them. Don’t miss the chances that life is giving you to spend with people you love. There are no rewinds.”
Adam Sandler

Under a Wild Sky

By day, in homeschooling, we studied children’s books on birds (everything from penguins to owls to robins!) and read two (20 page) books on Audubon as a boy and then as a man.

At night, during the same study period, I read Under a Wild Sky: John James Audubon and the Making of The Birds of America.

I was rather surprised to find that, while Audubon was a hero of sorts – discovering the unknown and sharing a great artistic talent with the world by showing wildlife via paintings that some people would never seen otherwise – Audubon was a jerk!

It also was amazing to me how much he lied, even when he didn’t have to, to make himself more interesting. These fibs cost him relationships. The author, William Souder, would frequently note his sources, as the accounts would change depending on whom Audubon told his stories. Audubon was incredibly selfish, not considering his family’s welfare – even distancing himself from them, buying fancy clothes to impress would-be project backers, whilst his family starved and was barely eking by.

Lucy, Audubon’s wife, was so faithful to John even though he treated her like dirt. Many of their correspondences were so depressing. In her letters, Lucy would pour her heart out and beg to see her husband. In his replies, which she oftentimes didn’t receive for months because the mail was so slow, John would put her off and be very non-committal. Here she was wondering if her husband was even alive and then when she finally got a letter, her husband told her not to come and join him and, oh by the way, he just met the most lovely young lady… (Audubon once even painted nude paintings of one of the ladies he mentioned to his wife, although I can’t remember if the book noted whether or not he wrote home about it.)

I can’t imagine Lucy’s grief when two of her four children, both of her daughters, died. Her family lived far away, and she was pretty much left alone raising two boys and dealing with grief and hardship.

It also surprised me at first to learn that Audubon was the illegitimate son of a French sea captain from an affair with a Spanish-Creole servant. Although, after reading the biography, I can see his father’s example of fidelity, combined with being abandoned by his father was partly to blame for his understanding of relationships, marriage and love. Audubon originally was given his mother’s last name, Rabin. Audubon changed his last name to that of his fathers when he came to America with a falsified passport in order to avoid the Napoleonic Wars.

I also learned that Audubon typically painted life-sized paintings and that his method of study included shooting the birds with a small shot (he was a skilled marksman, of course) so as not to destroy the bird upon impact. He would then study the bird and put it into a pose for his painting. He would kill over 100 birds a day, and would seek to hunt the rarest of birds, apparently without consideration that he was lending to their extinction. Even in his time, he observed that certain species were becoming harder to find. This did leave me pondering whether it was more important that the bird lived or if Audubon made an accurate and permanent record of the bird by painting it. I found myself imagining Audubon, this wild man, carrying around gigantic canvases and protecting them as he traveled through inclement weather and over great distances on foot.

Prior to reading this book, I had never before heard of the cedar waxwing bird. What gluttonous little creatures! Here’s an excerpt from the book about this particular species:

The cedar bird – now called the cedar waxwing – was a glutton. Audubon found that the cedar bird was especially fond of sugary fruits, like the berries found on the red cedar or mountain ask. With an abundant supply of berries, cedar birds sometimes ate until they were rendered temporarily flightless and could actually be caught by hand.

Once, Audubon wounded several cedar birds. Hoping to nurse them back to health, he put them a cage and fed them apples – only to watch the birds gorge on the fruit until they suffocated. When he dissected the birds, they were packed with apples “to the mouth.”

Perhaps one of the saddest aspects of learning more about Audubon was that he did not mention God in any of his personal correspondence or journal entries. (To be fair, if he did, it was not recorded in this particular book, although one would think that with the number of quotations that, if Audubon had a love of God, it would have shown up here and there in Souder’s account.) It just struck me that a man so in tune with and fascinated by nature did not give much credit or thought to its Creator.

Mommy-Brain: Making Homeschooling Interesting for Moms

I’ll admit it: Children’s books, while they whet the appetite to learn more about a topic, aren’t that interesting. I’ve found a way around these homeschooling-teacher blahs!

This school year, I decided to take it upon myself to read an adult book on the same topic we are studying in homeschooling.

I’ve found that this
-Keeps my brain stimulated and interested in what the kids are learning
-When I’m teaching, it helps me to bring out aspects of a topic neglected in children’s books
-Gives me an excuse to learn something new
-Prepares me for questions kids ask that go beyond the scope of “easy readers”
-Helps me to formulate questions in conversation with my children to help them to “dig deeper”

Even if you’re not homeschooling, may I recommend doing this for what your children are learning in school? Think of the dialogue it will stimulate, just having the information fresh in your head for when you ask the question, “What did you learn in school today?”

MTV Closing Arguments: A Presidential Super Dialogue

MTV’s Closing Arguments Dialogue was fascinating to watch.

It was BETTER organized that any of the debates geared to an adult audience.

I loved how the audience was encouraged to interact on many different levels. The questions were both relevant and intelligent. Most importantly, they were asked by young voters – not journalists trying to posture the media’s favorites.

Throughout the Dialogue, the candidates were never rudely cut off, and had time to answer questions and for the audience. The format was relaxed and did not have a breathless, race-against-the-clock, sound-bite feel. This gave viewers the opportunity to get a feel for the candidates’ personalities.

The Dialogue is worth the time to view no matter how you plan to vote, and I hope thousands of people of all ages will watch it while it’s still available online.

Thank you, MTV, for giving equal air time to all of the candidates. Who needs Fox News!! This was a best representation of “fair and balanced” I’ve seen in a long time. Bravo, MTV!

Of course… I have to say that of all of the candidates, my favorite was Ron Paul. His political experience, intelligence, understanding of policies, and lack of BS makes him an excellent choice for President.

In addition to getting positive feedback online throughout the debate, there were a bazillion sign waiving Ron Paul supporters on the ground in front of the studio. It was inspiring to watch!

So what do we do in the next few days?

1. Get connected. Go to Ron Paul’s website and learn more.

2. Donate! Ron Paul needs donations! These donations pay for advertising, forums, travel for Ron Paul, etc. The cool thing is that it doesn’t matter if the donation is just $10! Because he is so fiscally responsible, even small donations are not wasted.

3. Become a precinct leader.
You don’t have to have gray hair in order help out in this way! There is still time before Super Tuesday. As a precinct leader, you are given (online) the names and addresses of registered voters in the few blocks surrounding your house. There are even phone scripts with little check boxes for marking down voter responses, if you choose to go that route. The way the Ron Paul campaign has it set up makes it very easy for anyone to help.

4. Meet-up! Join a Ron Paul Meet-up group in your area. Meet people just like you who are having fun and making a difference by sharing the message of freedom with others. Meet-up groups help you be connected with the grassroots efforts already going on in your community.
Thanks again, MTV!
Go Ron Paul!!

Here are some clips — check out the periodic footage of the audience of Ron Paul sign waivers outside!!!